Anonymous Posted 16 years ago
Grammar
Grammar question
My girlfriend said to me the other day, "You came over my house." And I asked her what she meant and she repeated it. She was speaking about a time when I had arrived at her house in the past. I said the proper way to say this is, "You came over to my house." When I asked two of my friends, without prompting them, they both came up with the same answer as myself. However, our waitress the other night, got in on the conversation and she agreed with my girlfriend. I tried Googling the phrase and only came up with a rapper's song that has a lot of swear words with that sentence shoved in without punctuation and a lot of other things being said I won't mention here. (By the way it makes me nervous to write on this board as I imagine every sentence is being dissected.) I'd sure appreciate if someone more skilled than I would weigh in. The very sentence goes against my sensibilities but I can't tell you why. Or am I wrong about this and it can be said either way. Thanks a lot for your input and for anyone who answers I'd appreciate it, if you can, to explain why it needs to be one way or another or both. Sean
Top answer
Hi, Your instincts are right. Sometimes the 'to' is omitted in casual,, informal speech, but you certainly shouldn't do it in a grammar test or in a situation where you are trying to use standard English. Best wishes, Clive
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Hi,
Your instincts are right.
Sometimes the 'to' is omitted in casual,, informal speech, but you certainly shouldn't do it in a grammar test or in a situation where you are trying to use standard English.
Best wishes, Clive
Your instincts are right.
Sometimes the 'to' is omitted in casual,, informal speech, but you certainly shouldn't do it in a grammar test or in a situation where you are trying to use standard English.
Best wishes, Clive
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Clive
Thank you very much for responding. So I'm guessing from your response that you're saying it's grammatically incorrect but in "casual, informal" speech it's OK? I'm wondering if there isn't a hard and fast grammar rule? Thanks. Sean
Thank you very much for responding. So I'm guessing from your response that you're saying it's grammatically incorrect but in "casual, informal" speech it's OK? I'm wondering if there isn't a hard and fast grammar rule? Thanks. Sean
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Hi,
Actually, there's a fine of $100 every time someone says that and omits the 'to'.
Send any money you collect to me,and I'll forward it to the grammar police.
Best wishes, Clive
Actually, there's a fine of $100 every time someone says that and omits the 'to'.
Send any money you collect to me,and I'll forward it to the grammar police.
Best wishes, Clive
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Check's in the mail. Feel free to buy that new lingerie you've been wanting. Sean
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