Could You Help Me Understand This Pod?

I listened to a podcast about divorce, and transcribed the things I don't understand. My transcript might be awful so you can listen to the source podcast here.

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(0:50) 1. He refers to her as saying or the devil or the usaher or the spon of saying.(Those things might be terrible terms for insulting)
(1:40) 2. Because really when there was tension in the adendened household.
(3:12) 3. Even though you may not respect that person, you have to respect the office of parent, their position.(I think office is a place where people work, what does this mean?)
(4:12) 4. And your pa-sah-nah in front of your children gives them permission.
(4:27) 5. And when we say it's all right to talk deraugautorily about the ex-wife(meaning contemptuously I guess)
(4:42) 6. It's really important for you to get a grasp on that (a grammar question: why is here a proposition 'on'? I think the correct proposition is 'of' as in 'Try to get a grasp of the basic rules'). Even though you may be hurt and scar-ed(something to do with a scar?) and bitter. You can not let that venom out on your kids.
(5:34) 7. You go through so much turmoil and wigline around about how to do this.
(6:00) 8. If you can't get a grasp on your destain for the other person. You have to be able to do that, even though that means going and scraminate to your pelo until you feel better.
(7:35) 9. an ex-spouse treat you like dert.(meaning the ex-spouse abuses you)
(8:53) 10. Just remember, that venoness is a venom that affects your whole life.
(9:05) 11. If you allow that to become a cancel in your life, it will. And it will spill out on to your whole family, and so you have to get a rain on that.

I would be grateful if you could help me understand any of those above. Thanks for your help.